The Agreement Divorcing Co-Parents Need First
The co-parenting relationship cannot be built on the foundations of the romantic relationship – that relationship didn’t and doesn’t work.
“Lost and Exhausted” - the Chronic Invalidation Paradigm
People entering divorce are not starting from neutral. They are coming in after years of feeling misunderstood, dismissed, or not fully heard.
There is Room for Mistakes – We Make the Space.
We care about our clients – flaws, mistakes, and all – because their kids don’t see their flaws and mistakes. They just want their mom and dad to be better.
The Parent Habit That Quietly Breaks a Child’s Trust
During divorce, the stakes are high. One of the main goals should be to keep your word to your children. If that means answering a lot of questions with “I don’t know, but we’ll figure it out together”, that’s ok.
A Co-Parenting Relationship is Future Focused
One of the foundational premises of divorce coaching is that you must keep clients future focused. Otherwise, one or both divorcing spouses is often stuck telling and retelling (to themselves and anyone in their lives who will listen) the backward-looking story of the marriage and divorce.
This makes psychological sense…
What Belle Burden and I Have in Common
New York socialite Belle Burden’s book about her divorce has been so zeitgeisty for the past few months I’m ashamed to admit I only just finished the audiobook this week.
A company in Chapter 11 doesn’t stop operating. Neither does your family.
The practice of divorce law is dominated by litigators. Even in the out-of-court divorce options like mediation and collaborative law, almost all the attorneys started as traditional family law litigators.
I don’t want to be friends with my ex.
Not once in the year following Chris moving out of our home did it cross my mind that Chris and I would someday be friends. I don’t even know if what we’d call our relationship type is even “friends” now. Co-parenting is really its own thing.
How we ended up building a divorce method that didn’t exist.
The legal industry isn’t exactly known for innovation. Lawyers are famously risk averse.
You likely wouldn’t hire a divorce attorney who quoted the Silicon Valley ethos of “move fast and break things” as the way they would handle your divorce.
Our divorce story and the beginning of Redefining Family.
Chris and I got divorced seven years ago. We’re launching a business together this month. The best way to explain what we’re doing is to go back to the beginning.